{"id":179,"date":"2023-12-21T12:00:32","date_gmt":"2023-12-21T12:00:32","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/mywrittenexpression.brandmonks.dev\/?p=179"},"modified":"2025-09-03T14:04:46","modified_gmt":"2025-09-03T14:04:46","slug":"lastig-he-luisteren","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mywrittenexpression.brandmonks.dev\/?p=179","title":{"rendered":"Lastig he, luisteren"},"content":{"rendered":"\n\t\t<div id=\"fws_69e0dd6f84ea1\"  data-column-margin=\"default\" data-midnight=\"dark\"  class=\"wpb_row vc_row-fluid vc_row\"  style=\"padding-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; \"><div class=\"row-bg-wrap\" data-bg-animation=\"none\" data-bg-animation-delay=\"\" data-bg-overlay=\"false\"><div class=\"inner-wrap row-bg-layer\" ><div class=\"row-bg viewport-desktop\"  style=\"\"><\/div><\/div><\/div><div class=\"row_col_wrap_12 col span_12 dark left\">\n\t<div style=\"margin-top: 4%; \" class=\"vc_col-sm-12 wpb_column column_container vc_column_container col right_margin_tablet_3pct right_margin_phone_2pct left_margin_tablet_3pct left_margin_phone_2pct left_padding_desktop_6pct left_padding_tablet_4pct left_padding_phone_3pct top_padding_desktop_6pct top_padding_tablet_4pct top_padding_phone_3pct right_padding_desktop_6pct right_padding_tablet_4pct right_padding_phone_3pct bottom_padding_desktop_6pct \"  data-border-animation=\"\" data-border-animation-delay=\"\" data-border-width=\"1px\" data-border-style=\"solid\" data-border-color=\"#000000\" data-padding-pos=\"all\" data-has-bg-color=\"false\" data-bg-color=\"\" data-bg-opacity=\"1\" data-animation=\"\" data-delay=\"0\" >\n\t\t<div class=\"vc_column-inner\" style=\"border: 1px solid rgba(255,255,255,0); \"><span class=\"border-wrap\" style=\"border-color: #000000;\"><span class=\"border-top\"><\/span><span class=\"border-right\"><\/span><span class=\"border-bottom\"><\/span><span class=\"border-left\"><\/span><\/span>\n\t\t\t<div class=\"wpb_wrapper\">\n\t\t\t\t\n\t\t<div id=\"fws_69e0dd6f856e4\"  data-column-margin=\"default\" data-midnight=\"dark\"  class=\"wpb_row vc_row-fluid vc_row  bottom_margin_-8px\"  style=\"padding-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; \"><div class=\"row-bg-wrap\" data-bg-animation=\"none\" data-bg-animation-delay=\"\" data-bg-overlay=\"false\"><div class=\"inner-wrap row-bg-layer\" ><div class=\"row-bg viewport-desktop\"  style=\"\"><\/div><\/div><\/div><div class=\"row_col_wrap_12 col span_12 dark left\">\n\t<div  class=\"vc_col-sm-12 wpb_column column_container vc_column_container col no-extra-padding inherit_tablet inherit_phone \"  data-padding-pos=\"all\" data-has-bg-color=\"false\" data-bg-color=\"\" data-bg-opacity=\"1\" data-animation=\"\" data-delay=\"0\" >\n\t\t<div class=\"vc_column-inner\" >\n\t\t\t<div class=\"wpb_wrapper\">\n\t\t\t\t\n\t<div class=\"wpb_raw_code wpb_raw_html wpb_content_element\" >\n\t\t<div class=\"wpb_wrapper\">\n\t\t\t<span class=\"datum-leestijd-meta\">21 dec 2023 - 3 minuten om te lezen<\/span>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t<\/div>\n\n\t\t\t<\/div> \n\t\t<\/div>\n\t<\/div> \n<\/div><\/div>\n<h2 style=\"text-align: left\" class=\"vc_custom_heading vc_do_custom_heading\" >Lastig he, luisteren<\/h2><div class=\"divider-wrap\" data-alignment=\"default\"><div style=\"height: 24px;\" class=\"divider\"><\/div><\/div>\n<div class=\"wpb_text_column wpb_content_element  excerpt-source-text\" >\n\t<div class=\"wpb_wrapper\">\n\t\t<div data-breakout=\"normal\">\n<section class=\"VQDdIN\" data-hook=\"post-description\">\n<div class=\"moHCnT\">\n<div class=\"moHCnT\">\n<div class=\"fTEXDR\" data-rce-version=\"10.141.4\">\n<div class=\"Nb24R\" dir=\"ltr\" data-id=\"content-viewer\">\n<div class=\"AtdNU\">\n<div class=\"u05kW\">\n<div data-breakout=\"normal\">\n<p id=\"viewer-3t450\" class=\"YkmxR FKZMr _0uV8u MaBN2\" dir=\"auto\"><span class=\"B6ypb _0uV8u\">Heb je je ooit wel eens afgevraagd waarom je gevoelens niet correleren met je manier van handelen? Waarom je het gevoel krijgt dat je dreigt te stikken wanneer liefde te dichtbij komt? Ik heb het me wel eens afgevraagd. Ik heb me wel eens afgevraagd waarom ik aan de ene kant zo graag die nabijheid wil voelen, terwijl ik ondertussen iets wat te dichtbij dreigt te komen alleen maar probeer af te stoten. Ik heb me ook wel eens afgevraagd waarom ik me pas rustig kan voelen wanneer ik alleen ben of waarom ik te lang in een situatie blijf terwijl ik veel liever thuis zou zijn. Vaak zijn dat namelijk de momenten waarna de muur, die ik soms opzet, erg snel tot over mijn kruin kan reiken.<\/span><\/p>\n<p dir=\"auto\">Straks is het weer rustig en heb ik het weer los gelaten. Gek hoe dat werkt. 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